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  • skorepeo
    Club Member
    • Dec 2015
    • 30

    Need help with the wife.

    So I have a Rec Tec, and 6 burner gasser and a COS Char Griller. Now over the weekend I found someone that had a Weber performer that was lightly used and all they wanted was $40 bucks for it so naturally I picked it up. My thoughts are that I need something that I can take camping and will be easy to get in and out of the pickup. I'm also thinking that if I get a slow n sear that I can get rid of the Char Griller.

    The wife isn't gonna see it that way and I can already hear the "what do you need another grill for" speech.

    I need to go to Grillers Anonymous.
  • DWCowles
    Founding Member
    • Jul 2014
    • 9703
    • Smiths Grove, Ky
    • Hi, my name is Darrell. I'm an OTR truck driver for over 25 years. During my off time I love doing backyard cooks. I have a 48" Lang Deluxe smoker, Rec-Tec pellet smoker,1 Weber Genesis 330, 1 Weber Performer (blue), 2 Weber kettles (1 black and 1 Copper), 1 26" Weber kettle, a WSM, 8 Maverick Redi Chek thermometers, a PartyQ, 2 SnS, Grill Grates, Cast Iron grates, 1 ThermoPop (orange) and 2 ThermoPens (pink and orange) and planning on adding more cooking accessories. Now I have an Anova sous vide, the Dragon blower and 2 Chef alarms from Thermoworks.

    You're on your own skorepeo but sometimes you have to give in order to receive ๐Ÿ˜Š


    • Locotech
      Locotech commented
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      lol DW...sounds like experience talkin'
  • GadjetGriller
    Club Member
    • Dec 2015
    • 726
    • Lubbock tx
    • I have 3 outdoor devices (plus a couple indoor items) Starting with the PBC, Faux Kamado Kooker,(Akorn metal Kamado) & Oklahoma Joe offset grill and smoker. I use the FireBoard WiFi Thermometer. IQ110 (heat control device for akorn) recently acquired a Char-Broil Big Easy TRU-INFRARED 3-in-1 Roaster, Smoker and Grill, I also have A Anova & Joule Sous Vide Wands and The Steakager ( a unit for Dry aging big hunks of meat!)

    Then ask here why do you need 5 pairs of yellow shoes?? 40 bucks wont buy one pair of women's shoes so you should be golden!!


    • Karon Adams
      Karon Adams commented
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      THAT is a good way to go camping PERMANENTLY!

    • EdF
      EdF commented
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      Yeah, danger zone that one!

    • Dale Case
      Dale Case commented
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      Yeah, I'm thinkin more like "So I can grill us tasty meats while we are camping and cut down on how much you have to cook sweetheart" Lol
  • shush
    Club Member
    • Sep 2016
    • 141
    • Northern Virginia
    • RecTec RT-680
      Brinkmann Bullet (Electric)
      Maverick ET-732

    I have only been married 19 years. I do my best not to meddle with others or give marital advice because every relationship is different. You know your wife far better than any of us, so you may need to tread lightly. I can tell you that my wife asked me why I needed 4 different types of saws (Table, Band, Radial Arm, Finish) for my wood working projects, because "They all cut wood". My response was that they all do cut wood, but in different orientations for different types of cuts and sometimes for different types of materials. I did draw a parallel to shoes with my wife, and she seemed to understand. I just pointed out the differences/features that made the saw different and she no longer questioned the "need". Now you have me thinking I need to go to woodworkers anonymous.


    • EdF
      EdF commented
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      Nah, you need to apply the same logic to cookers, then share the list with us!

      Let's see: 3 routers (one freehand, one in a table, one in a Woodrat), 6 powered saws: a Festool jigsaw, Festool circular saw, my wife's compound miter saw, a big honking tablesaw, the sawzall, and my wife's trusty screw-drive skilsaw. Etc.
  • Cowmanhunter
    Founding Member
    • Jul 2014
    • 4
    • Florida

    As long as I am not taking up her shoe rack space in the closet with my grills then I don't have t justify why I need another grill, I'm just saying.

    Grills anonymous never! I don't have a problem there is a perfectly good reason to have 5,6,7,8 grills uh maybe 9,10 whatever they are all much needed๐Ÿ™„


    • Thunder77
      Founding Member
      • Jul 2014
      • 2836
      • Halethorpe, MD
      • Weber 26.75" Kettle with SnS. Broil King Baron 5 burner. Akorn Kamado, and Akorn Jr kamado. Primo Oval Junior. Love grilling steaks, ribs, and chicken. Need to master smoked salmon Favorite cool weather beer: Sam Adams Octoberfest Favorite warm weather beer: Yuengling Traditional Lager All-time favorite drink: Single Malt Scotch

      Tell her that the formula for the number of grills/smokers you need is: n+1. With "n" being the number of grills/smokers you already have.

      Seriously though, for around $150 for a Weber performer and and SnS, you have a real kick-ass combo there.


      • FireMan
        Charter Member
        • Jul 2015
        • 7853
        • Bottom of Winnebago

        Shush, that was brilliant! Now I know what or how to talk to my wife the next time. Honey, all saws cut wood.........
        It sure is better than, whimpering & saying, I've got this MCS thing & I can't help my self & you just don't understand. Or worse, hiding it, whatever it may be. I've read where members have hid whole cookers behind the garage, under trash cans or something similar. Let's all stand up for ourselves, be calm, collected & brave. Honey, all saws cut wood & you know all those shoes you got, well, let me tell ya................your feet look mighty good................and I've got a lot of wood to cut! And, about those cookers & stuff......


        • CaptainMike
          Club Member
          • Nov 2015
          • 2545
          • The Great State of Jefferson
          • Weber Summit Charcoal Grill w/SnS and DnG (Spartacus)
            Old school big'ol Traeger w/Pro controller (Big Tex)
            2 W22's w/SnS, DnG (1 black, 1 copper) (Minions 1 and 2)
            20+ y/o many times rebuilt Weber Genesis w/GrillGrates (Gas Passer)
            20 x 30 Santa Maria grill (Maria, duh)
            Bradley cabinet smoker (Pepper Gomez)
            36" Blackstone griddle (The Black Beauty)
            Thermoworks Smoke and Thermapen.

          Serving up some delicious food from those cookers is justification enough. As far as saws and tools, just have your wife help you build a house or do an addition and she will quickly gain a new appreciation for not just the quantity, but the quality of those tools. At least mine did!


          • Breadhead
            Banned Former Member
            • Jul 2014
            • 0

            MCS... women just do get it.๐Ÿ™„ Once you've got it, figuring out how to get your wife to accept your obsession can be difficult but there's always a way.๐Ÿ˜Ž One must always be thinking up the next scheme to acquire the next cooker. When your wife comes home with a trunk full of new clothes and shoes is a good time to make your move. Her own guilt will soften her comments.๐Ÿ˜‰


            • Breadhead
              Breadhead commented
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              Hmmm... I didn't mean to leave out any of our valued female members Karon. All of whom I greatly respect.

            • fzxdoc
              fzxdoc commented
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              No worries. We're just ragging you, Breadhead! We know if you forgot about us, Crazy Mary would be on you like a duck on a junebug.


            • Breadhead
              Breadhead commented
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              That's Scary Mary... she might take offense to Crazy Mary.๐Ÿค” She is very protect of the female gender. I don't get away with any snide remarks to females.๐Ÿ˜ฌ
          • tbob4
            Charter Member
            • Nov 2014
            • 2505
            • Chico, CA
            • BBQ's
              California Custom Smokers Intensive Cooking Unit
              California Custom Smokers Meat Locker
              Santa Maria Grill
              Vision Grill

              Sierra Nevada IPA


            The easiest way, I have found, is to find something that is MORE expensive than what you want to get and then start talking it up. Do it so often that she rolls her eyes and says "You have lost your (insert adjective) mind. There is no (insert another adjective) way you are spending that much on another BBQ." Then accidentally find the one you want for "1/2 the price." Tell her you don't want to settle on that but finally just say "OK, for you I am going with the cheaper model." It works a lot better than getting on the floor and stomping around like a kid. That only gets you on her Facebook page with tons of laughter.


            • Cowmanhunter
              Cowmanhunter commented
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              Yes this is great advice works like a charm
          • Spinaker
            • Nov 2014
            • 10765
            • Land of Tonka
            • John "J R"
              Instagram: JRBowlsby
              Smokin' Hound Que
              Minnesota/ United States of America

              Dexter (Beagle mix)
              Kinnick (American Foxhound)

              Big Green Egg (Large) X3
              Blackstone 36" Outdoor Griddle 4-Burner

              Karubeque C-60
              Kamado Joe Jr. (Black)
              Lodge L410 Hibachi
              Pit Barrel Cooker
              Pit Barrel Cooker 2.0
              R&V Works FF2-R-ST 4-Gallon Fryer

              Weber Spirit Gasser
              FireBoard (Base Package)
              Thermoworks ThermaPen (Red)
              Thermoworks MK4 (Orange)

              Big Green Egg Plate Setter
              Benzomatic TS4000 Torch X 2
              Benzomatic TS800 High Temp Torch X 2

              Bayou Classic 44 qt Stainless Stock Pot
              Bayou Classic 35K BTU Burner

              Digi Q DX2 (Medium Pit Viper Fan)
              Dragon VT 2-23 C Torch
              Eggspander Kit X2
              Field Skillet No. 8,10,12

              Finex Cat Iron Line
              FireBoard Drive
              Lots and Lots of Griswold Cast Iron
              Grill Grates
              Joule Water Circulator
              KBQ Fire Grate

              Kick Ash Basket (KAB) X4
              Lots of Lodge Cast Iron
              Husky 6 Drawer BBQ Equipment Cabinet
              Large Vortex
              Marlin 1894 .44 Magnum
              Marquette Castings No. 13 (First Run)
              Smithey No. 12
              Smokeware Chimney Cap X 3
              Stargazer No.10, 12
              Tool Wizard BBQ Tongs
              Univex Duro 10" Meat Slicer
              FOGO Priemium Lump Charcoal
              Kingsford Blue and White
              Rockwood Lump Charcoal
              Apple, Cherry & Oak Log splits for the C-60

              Buck 119 Special
              Cuda 7' Fillet Knife

              Dexter 12" Brisket Sword
              Next Major Purchase
              Lone Star Grillz 24 X 48 Offset

            I think she will be able to appreciate you getting rid of the Char-griller. Anytime one of those hits the dump.....its a good thing!


            • Karon Adams
              Charter Member
              • Feb 2015
              • 1515
              • Chattanooga TN
              • Karon Adams
                Consort of the Flame
                Cooking is a Sacred Endeavour
                Big Poppa's Drum conversion
                Maverick wireless meat & grill thermometers
                Thermopen Instant Read Thermometer
                Pit IQ blower

              here's my idea. fire up your grills, mix her a beverage of choice, then YOU take care of dinner on how ever many cookers needed from apetizers to dessert. we're talking the whole nine yards, here. that may cover you.


              • Centex Hokie
                Former Member
                • Sep 2016
                • 46

                My favorite store when we lived in Alabama was one called Gold and Golf. The husband ran a golf shop up top and the wife ran a jewelry store on the bottom. The owner told me that in 10 years not a day went by where they didn't hear, "If you're going to buy that, then I'm going to buy that." As someone who has been happily married for 36 years, I realized that a happy wife is happy life. Make her happy and both of your lives will be better. Good luck.


                • Danjohnston949
                  Former Member
                  • Dec 2014
                  • 4418
                  • 1410 9th. St. N, Fargo ND

                  @skorpeo, I have โ€Owned" Eunice for 43 Yrs Now! I have to do everything She Tells Me To Do?? Just as Damned Soon as I get Arround to It!
                  Eat Well and Prosper! From a Backyard Cremator in Fargo ND, Dan


                  • EdF
                    EdF commented
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                    That's because you're HWMO as Ms Karon Adams pointed out. But it's what makes life go 'round!
                • Bigfish8
                  Former Member
                  • Oct 2015
                  • 19

                  I am reading this and I am asking myself - really, she is going to be upset about you spending $40.00 for another grill? Just tell her you plan to sell one of the other units so you are not adding another toy to the stable. Heck, a decent bottle of booze costs $40.00 so you really aren't breaking the bank. Most of us are thinking you got a great deal and we would have done the same thing. We men don't look at women's preferences any different than they look at ours - never will. I have been married 41 years and sometimes I just have to make myself happy!





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